Life has a way of shutting doors and opening windows, at least that's what I'm told. As a child you think about what your life is going to be like when you are an adult. What it will be like to graduate high school, to even be in high school. You'll be part of the "cool kids" be asked to prom and of course speak at graduation. Well, for some this may be exactly what their lives were carved out to be like. Others may have a different story to tell.
After high school you go onto college where you find your soulmate. You date, you find that perfect career path, get engaged and move to the big city where you both are employed, wealthy, and live in the burbs in a 4,000 sq. foot house. Again, this would be idealistic, and perfect. And maybe some do have this picture perfect life - congratulations!
However, life isn't always what it seems. There are unforeseen obstacles: Jobs, relationships, marriage, kids and people can all cloud judgement and force our "dream paths" of going a different direction. There isn't anything wrong with changing your path, but just don't forget about who you are as a person. It's important to continue to be truthful about yourself and the needs and wants you have. Only change for a person if it's something you want to do, and not something you need to do in order to make the relationship work.
In every wedding card I always write, "Make time for yourselves and time together for date nights." Just because you say, "I do," doesn't mean the dates should end. There are too many sitcoms that depict marriage in a Hollywood way. Marriage takes work from both parties and it doesn't happen without a little bit of effort. Even as a married couple it is important to have time for yourself and separate. You aren't required to do everything as a couple. It's okay to like different things and do things separately. And that's where date night is so important. You then can come together and share your individual experiences but know that you are supportive of one another.
Regardless of where you are in life, high school, college, early marriage, five years of marriage and two kids, 35 years of marriage, or retired and enjoying retirement and all your hard years of labor. Over coming the obstacles is the biggest challenge. If you can look back on your life and say you are happy with your life, then you've done it! You've over come all obstacles. But not without a few path changes along the way. These changes only make your stronger.
As always, make the most of every day.
After high school you go onto college where you find your soulmate. You date, you find that perfect career path, get engaged and move to the big city where you both are employed, wealthy, and live in the burbs in a 4,000 sq. foot house. Again, this would be idealistic, and perfect. And maybe some do have this picture perfect life - congratulations!
However, life isn't always what it seems. There are unforeseen obstacles: Jobs, relationships, marriage, kids and people can all cloud judgement and force our "dream paths" of going a different direction. There isn't anything wrong with changing your path, but just don't forget about who you are as a person. It's important to continue to be truthful about yourself and the needs and wants you have. Only change for a person if it's something you want to do, and not something you need to do in order to make the relationship work.
In every wedding card I always write, "Make time for yourselves and time together for date nights." Just because you say, "I do," doesn't mean the dates should end. There are too many sitcoms that depict marriage in a Hollywood way. Marriage takes work from both parties and it doesn't happen without a little bit of effort. Even as a married couple it is important to have time for yourself and separate. You aren't required to do everything as a couple. It's okay to like different things and do things separately. And that's where date night is so important. You then can come together and share your individual experiences but know that you are supportive of one another.
Regardless of where you are in life, high school, college, early marriage, five years of marriage and two kids, 35 years of marriage, or retired and enjoying retirement and all your hard years of labor. Over coming the obstacles is the biggest challenge. If you can look back on your life and say you are happy with your life, then you've done it! You've over come all obstacles. But not without a few path changes along the way. These changes only make your stronger.
As always, make the most of every day.
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