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Dating after Divorce

The girlfriends guide to dating after divorce....is there such a book out there?!? Seriously!

I'm no expert in dating or relationships because if I was I wouldn't be a divorced single mom dating at 30. If you thought dating was hard in high school, college and even after college, dating after getting divorced is about 100 x's harder. For one, guys don't even know what dating is. Have you heard the term "Netflix and chill?" that's the extent of dating these days.

I've realized that dating at my age is a process. It's almost worst now than ever. What do you say? What's your past like? Divorced? Kids? Why did you get divorced? In a time where you swipe right or left in hopes of making a match, you believe what you see on paper.

So you actually go on a date, you're having a good time. He calls. He texts. Things are going great. You're three dates in and you think you're heading in the right direction. You think, I'm an adult, I've​/we've been through all the dating games before so it shouldn't be necessary to play them at this age. Oh, but that's so not the case. Even at this age there are the same games to be played, except they are so much harder because you have a life, a jib, and maybe a kid or two. Just because you get divorced and are ready to date again doesn't mean your schedule is all of a sudden open with all this extra time.

At least I have a sense of humor when it comes to dating and I have my priorities straight, except apparently that is intimidating to some men. Explain that one to me!

I find it to be a little lonely around the holidays without that significant other or +1 to RSVP to for holiday work parties and friendsmas activities. But there is strength in numbers and it's not just about having a man on your arm when you walk through the door. It's about the strength of your tribe...Your best friends who are there no matter what. I have a few of these amazing friends who never leave me hanging and are always willing to be my +1 to any event. To me, that's more than enough. Being independent and having best friends who help you through the toughest of times (end of short tangent). Now, back to the show 😀

I have a feeling that no matter how old I get, dating is going to be hard. Oh well! Oh bla de oh blah da...Life goes on.

Xoxo

~Alyssa

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